Out of Pocket Bridesmaid

Few things are more exciting than your bestie asking you to stand by her side on the biggest day of her life. Whether she asked over a text, coffee, or a creative gift you were thrilled and couldn’t wait to start all the planning! Just think of all the parties, and girls’ nights, and the dress shopping, cute jewelry, nails, hair, makeup, the gifts… and money.

On the outside you’re smiling, but your bank account is screaming just thinking about it. Of course you want to give the bride-to-be everything her heart desires and more, but honestly you’re already scraping by on a ramen noodle budget.

While you can’t have it all, we have a few tips on how to be the best bridesmaid you can be while still staying on budget:

  1. Speak up

    As a former bridesmaid, MOH, and bride, you’re going to want to trust me on this. Right from the start, make it clear to the bride and other bridesmaids exactly what you are comfortable spending. It may feel a little uncomfortable at first, however that quick talk will prevent tons of issues down the road. And I’m sure you’ll find that others will have their own budgetary concerns as well.

  2. Save, save, save

    Even if it’s just a little bit, make sure you’re setting something aside for all the unexpected little expenses that are bound to come up. There are months of activities ahead and you don’t want to have to miss out on the fun. Skip a couple iced coffees and pack a home lunch for work. You’ll be surprised how much it will add up!

  3. Take charge

    Obviously don’t trample over the bride’s opinions, but when you can (bachelorette party, bridal shower, etc.) be a major part of the planning. That way you can insure things don’t get too crazy. Sure, a cruise in the Bahamas would awesome, but really the bride just wants to spend time with her girls.

  4. Don’t go into debt

    Seriously, just don’t. It’s not worth it. You don’t want to end up broke and resentful of your bestie’s wedding. Be honest about what you can and can’t do. Any true friend will understand.

  5. Prioritize

    So the bride has a dream dress picked out for you, but it’s a good chunk of change more than you’d have hoped. Here’s where you can’t compromise or complain. Find room for the dress or whatever seems to be the most important to the bride. Then, adjust your spending in others areas. Go for a simple manicure over the delux. Do your own hair and makeup instead of getting it professionally done. Figure out where your budget can bend to make room for where it really matters.

  6. Remember, she picked you

    The bride-to-be wants you, out of all the women in her life, to stand by her when she says, “I do.” At the end of the day, your role is to be there for her. She doesn’t need your money, she needs you- the girl who can hold her bouquet during her vows and her dress when she needs to pee. She needs your love and support. Money can’t buy that.

    Fun is free! Remember, this is a celebration, not a time to be stressed. Fun is in your attitude, not your credit card.